Going dutch dating advice
—where soldiers needed a drink or two to fight in battle.There was Double Dutch—the popular children’s game—which implied the Dutch language was indiscernible and hard to understand.
I enjoy blessing other people’s day far too much not to jump on that opportunity.Honestly, are there women out there who will go out with a guy just for the free drinks? But if a guy really expects that he can spend money on a woman and she'll keep going out with him, or that he ‘deserves’ something from her, that's f'ed up," says Diana, 36.You just don't show up to a date expecting a free meal; you just don't."I think it shouldn't be assumed that he is going to pay.I always accepted dates only if I knew I could afford me.Of course, now that I'm married, it's whichever one of us has money in the bank account," says Colleen, 30.It's about personal finances, a power struggle between men and women to attain equality, prove we can pay too, but still enjoy being treated, and what's comfortable for us.
This is definitely a topic that won't find a complete resolution anytime soon, which is cool, because eternal mysteries are a blast.
Splitting is always great, but it's a bit more complicated than that."I prefer to split on the first date, unless one person specifically asked and then planned the date without input, in which case I might be persuaded to let the other person to treat because they planned everything and invited me as a guest.
(I mean like, ' I have two tickets to the opera and will pick you up at 8,' type situations.) But really, I prefer to split.
I’m not going to say I was super excited about it—but I went along with it.
I do think there need to be a few guidelines before deciding to split a bill— on a date.
You better pick up the tab, or forget it."I'm old school. I think in the end, you can't blame anyone for wanting a free meal.